Your Relationships Are Virtually Useless...Unless they Are SOLID

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• Author: Jayson Pagan

Sometimes I think it's about knowing as many people as possible. The fact is, you don't have a relationship with someone because you know their name. If I am going to be a leader, especially of a team, I have to be build relationships with them, not just acquaintance. Every time I have contact with people I lead I have the chance to CONNECT, not just encounter. That can just be tough to remember!

Leader, it's a sad thing when we've been "leading" people and we know nothing about them except what they accomplished for me, what time they are supposed to show up, and what can they do for the team. As soon as someone else spends time enough to learn their middle name, ask their opinion on important issues BEFORE they make decisions, and buy their children a birthday gift, they will realize they are just a stepping stone for you to get across the next divide. YOU BETTER GET GENUINE. . . AND TRANSPARENT....if not, when time calls for loyalty, it had better be convenient (like grabbing you a cup of coffee while they are getting one for themselves), or it isn't happening.

HOW DO I SHOW I AM GENUINE? ... Good Question!!!

1. If you secretly think they are a nobody, then you need a good understanding of value and RESPECT. Everyone has a reason to be considered incredible in some way! Find value in those you lead, and tell them about it. Be specific about why you value them. It matters when you do...AND WHEN YOU DON'T.

2. Find a common ground and create experiences with them that can be remembered. If you don't succeed in connecting on a personal and shared level, YOU WILL NOT SUCCEED ON A TEAM LEVEL. Eating lunch together in the cafeteria isn't a "shared experience". Someone needs to know you ignored the voice on your routine GPS to make time with them happen.

3. Stop building a one-sided "take" relationship that will eventually fall apart. Make sure you are giving as much as you are taking. IT'S THAT SIMPLE.

4. BE THERE. Serve. Trust means you are dependable and committed. Trust is more than keeping a secret. A child trusts Dad when he willingly falls off the edge of the couch into his arms, with a smile, with a laugh, and with no thought of hitting the floor. DON'T LET YOUR TEAM HIT THE FLOOR. When you see gravity has taken over and they are speeding headlong into the pavement, DIVE TO SAVE THEM. Leaders create solutions, cover their people, and destroy fearful & intimidating situations.

5. When you see their faults and weaknesses, find your equal and like weakness and divulge that information as the launching pad for the lesson to be learned. Sometimes the lesson is simply that they are human and like every other person, including you. At times, that IS THE LESSON.

You may have proximity to a lot of people, but you cannot afford to have the same relationship with everyone. If your vision comes from God, it's going to take a team. No mission is accomplished without a lot of people who want that. If you don't genuinely buy into them, they will never buy into the vision.

YOU MUST COMMIT TO BUILDING SOLID RELATIONSHIPS.


J. Jayson Pagan

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